Perhaps there comes a time in the lives of most of us when we try to reassess where we are in life, what we are doing, what we have achieved and maybe where we have failed
We make resolutions to change – New Year being our nemesis or downfall.
We make them, we inevitably break them and accept that as normal. It’s just who we are.
These resolutions are the changes in our habits that we sometimes desperately WANT to make, or feel we MUST make in our lives. They are aspects of our daily routine or habits we that need to start/restart in order to achieve our ambition.
We may have some great ambition, we may not have done anything about it before; it may be totally new, or we have done something about it but not on a regular basis.
They may be the words on the end of the phrase:
“If only I had done………… I could have been”
“If only I had done………… Such a damning phrase!
And probably for most of us, that is as far as we get.
How Can We Improve the Possibility That One Day We Might Achieve Our Ambitions?
As the Meerkat tells us – Simples!
To achieve our ambition, we need to carry out the necessary actions more consistently.
But first of all,
We need to:
START THAT CYCLE.
There are additional changes, or actions, or habits that we need to STOP doing to make the advances that we need in order to achieve our ambitions.
In other words, we need to
“BREAK ONE CYCLE AND CREATE ANOTHER”
One of the most difficult things to do when making changes in our lives is starting or breaking a cycle. Starting or breaking a cycle can take a huge effort and long term commitment.
“Researchers from University College London examined the new habits of 96 people over the space of 12 weeks, and found that the average time it takes for a new habit to stick is actually 66 days; furthermore, individual times varied from 18 to a whopping 254 days.
The take-away message here is that if you want to develop a new behaviour, it will take at least two months, and you shouldn’t despair if three weeks doesn’t do the trick – for most people that’s simply not enough.”
Sometimes we cannot be bothered. The “I will do it tomorrow,” syndrome.
Recognise the thought process? Recognise that logic as you sit in your armchair after a particularly hard day at work.
That glass of wine that turns into a bottle of wine of an evening. That cigarette that tempts us. That extra bowl of ice cream. Yum!
I will just have one.
I will start tomorrow after………
Yes! Tomorrow will give me a clean starting point.
And tomorrow never comes!
THE FIRST STEP
Let us be honest. The most difficult step is the first one. And after the first step the most difficult one is the second step, and so on.
But change that habit often enough and that new habit becomes part of your routine. It becomes embedded in your psyche.
Embed it enough and the point will come, that if you break back into your old ways you will begin to feel that there is something missing. You will start to feel guilty about neglecting your new habit.
I remember the immediate time after I graduated; I had studied hard for my final year and when I sat down to watch television for the first time in a year I actually felt guilty.
I just had this physical and mental urge, I needed to get back to my books.
I have to confess it didn’t take me long to get rid of that particular neurosis.
Just as you once craved that extra glass or bottle of wine, you will now crave the feeling for the new desire, the desire to build and succeed with your new need, habit or ambition, rather than the “you” you once were.
But the most important step is to:
We all want different things in life, more money, more freedom to choose. The difficulty can be how to start.
I know someone who has been through this journey, who has made his new life and is now prepared to help others make a new life for themselves. Well, perhaps this might be a good place to start.